Is It Important to be Wooed and Romanced?

“Romance is a poor man’s gateway to sex.”

Robyn

Overview

It’s the second week of Project Attraction and it’s going swimmingly. ..I think. This week I decided to focus more on inner beauty instead of outer beauty. You know, I won’t lie, it was harder than I thought. To really feel beautiful from the inside out? … nigh impossible!

Sorta…

I don’t know when it happened, but by Saturday, when I looked in the mirror while preparing to go to church, I felt beautiful. Like genuinely.

But I’m getting ahead of myself. Shall I update on all the cool, exciting things I did this past week?

Week 2 Analysis

The biting, -4-degree weather didn’t exactly provide the welcome I expected for the second week of my challenge. Yet, true to the nature of the challenge, I slipped on my puffer jacket, boots, earmuffs and gloves and headed to the gathering I had signed up for.

Surprisingly, the weather hadn’t deterred many people from venturing into local shops, stores and even different cities. I trekked my way to the nearest subway station and waited patiently for my stop in a cute, short dress with thick leggings. I put on make-up, plumped up my lips with an eye-catching gloss, and blasted good tunes into my ears to mentally pump myself up for the people I might meet, in case there were any potentials.😏.

During the Week

The cafe, surprisingly busy, did not prepare me for the sparsity of members that attended our little gathering. Yet even though there was small turnout it was still fun.

Other than that, I went out quite a few times this week to go to the gym, eat good food with friends, go to church and visit some cute cafes but most importantly, I made an effort to speak kind words to myself whenever I did my morning and night routines.

..had to look up some encouraging quotes online at first, but hey, I still did it.

To be honest, I considered this week successful compared to the previous one, but I still felt that there was no real way to track whether or not I would be successful after the challenge ended. So, I decided it might be better to clarify this challenge’s goals and expectations with the challenger one more time.

OH! And I went to the most delectable vegetarian restaurant with a friend. It looked cool and the food? AMAZING 😍😍😍😍. The place is called Plantude. Check out this quick video and then you can get back to the post. 😉

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Clarified Challenge

The answer I received from my challenger surprised me. Confidence.

I’m not gonna lie, I was a little disappointed when told this. I know confidence is important, but I have spent most of my life building this part of me. Even though my confidence isn’t perfect, I know for a fact I’ve come a long way. Sure, constantly working on myself is my lifelong goal, but I think I wanted this challenge to be about something else, something tangible, something I haven’t had proof of yet –attracting someone.

After confessing this, my challenger asked me a question that made me think.

“What does attracting mean to you? Like a guy who wants to date you? Or just to know that you are in fact attractive?”

Heart’s Desire

The simple question pointed my heart’s desire to me. I want to attract someone. Knowing that I am attractive isn’t enough; I want the magnetic power of my attraction to actually draw someone to me. I want indisputable proof.

[Someone that I like, of course… none of that sending people I ain’t attracted too nonsense 😒🤫🫠….What? It needed to be said. Trust me, it’s all in the specifics, y’all 😅. ]

Proof that was wholly eradicated with a simple statement –

“So, you want to find someone to be with you, but you’re leaving the country soon…”

[OKAY… no one needs to have the flaws in their barely constructed plan pointed out 😑.]

But like usual, my beloved challenger did have a solid point that I had to begrudgingly acknowledge. I couldn’t fully test out my theory, but that still didn’t mean I couldn’t WANT to experience romance.

..Right?

Earth Shattering News

“Girl, romance is a poor man’s gateway to sex. Do not be fooled.”

The desire to want to be wanted by someone, though innate, wasn’t originally paired with the thoughtful acts we now know as romance. Something I did not know before my friend so rudely opened my eyes to its history.

Yet even though she shattered my rose-tinted glasses with some harsh facts, I just can’t ignore my heart’s desire. I want to be pursued, courted, romanced….

I want to be loved, feel loved, know love…..

In older times and even today, people may have used romance as a means to an end, but I know that it can also bring hearts together and keep a spark alive. I wanted this challenge to prove that. I wanted to see if people, even in today’s century, would still put in effort to know someone and genuinely care about them.

..If attraction really does have layers.

Am I wrong for wanting that?

New Week, New Goal

Thankfully, she (my challenger) understood my perspective and has altered the goal of this challenge ever so slightly.

New challenge: “I want you to believe that you have the power to get anything you want.”

But of course, she didn’t end it without making a helpful suggestion:

Think about why you wanna be romanced, what that would look like to you and how you want it to make you feel.

I suppose that is the question, isn’t it? Just why is it so important for me to feel romance? So, this week, I will be delving into her suggestion a bit more. I will not only work on building my confidence, inner beauty, and outer beauty, but also contemplate a little deeper why attaining romance is important to me, what I want from it, and how I want it.

Wish me luck!

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