Okay, this post is quite difficult for me to write. For the first time, I actually think I’m at a loss for words. I’m not exactly sure how to express what I want to say. Nonetheless, I will give it a try. Enjoy!

Overview

I thought last week would be the last time I wrote something about this challenge. To be honest, I didn’t think there was much left to it. But right when I was about to close the chapter on this interesting experiment, and surprising development took place.

I met someone.

Now, now, calm down! Before you get all excited, let me expound.

I met someone who embodies the type of person I can see myself with. It’s not THAT person….BUT he exemplifies characteristics of the kind of person I would like to be with. He put into perspective my expectations in human form.

I had an ‘ah-ha’ moment after meeting him.

Now, before y’all try and burn me out the stake for “shutting out” any potential options that may come my way, I’m going to clarify.

I AM NOT CLOSING MYSELF OFF. 😤😂

On the contrary, I feel more inspired and open-minded after meeting him.

Awareness in Attraction

For the past two months I have been trying different things to understand just what it means to attract and doing my utmost best to attract. In my last post, I shared my opinion on what I thought attraction ultimately meant to me.

By the end of last week, I had essentially come to the conclusion that desired attraction can only work when we have a deeper understanding of our own beauty and the confidence to attract what we want.

Though it’s true, I unmasked another layer in attraction.

Awareness.

Awareness in attraction is crucial. Especially if you are like me and desire deep connections with the people around you.

Knowing who you’re attracting, who you want to attract and why you want to attract them is an essential part of this process.

At the beginning of this challenge, I expressed that I wanted some sort of verbal validation or desirable action from a male to prove their attraction to me. Yet, as time continued, I’ve come to the realization that I don’t want just anyone to find me attractive. I’m looking for something more meaningful to me than that.

I had nearly given up hope in finding such a person when I met him.

Mystery Man

He towered over me with his 6 ft -something stature. His gentle demeanor, easygoing nature and refreshing honesty made the time spent together fly by. Perhaps I could pin it on the ease and flow of our banter, or maybe it was the friendliness and the almost instantaneous level of comfortability achieved within a few short hours.

Honestly, looking back now, I don’t think he is that different from my other close guy friends, but this time there was a feeling.

A feeling I never had before.

A feeling that said, “This is the kind of person you are looking for.”

[I wanna be extremely clear here. I am not saying that he is the person I will be with. BUT the characteristics he portrayed impressed me as the kind of characteristics that I wanted in a future partner.

Don’t message me to go for it with this guy. I see you… 🤨👀]

Impact of Project Attraction

I believe the reason I was so impacted by our meeting is because I have adopted a different frame of mind from this challenge. Looking back, I must admit that I encountered amazing guys that displayed these characteristics but I couldn’t appreciate it then.

I wasn’t in a frame of mind to accept it was what I wanted.

I can admit now that did friendzone a lot of people that displayed qualities that I wanted instead of exploring them. But now, thanks to this challenge, I believe I’m finally opening up. I finally understand the words Robyn said to me during that phone call all those months ago.

In a few short hours when what I was looking for crystalized in front of me, I realize that my whole life, not only was I not aware of the power of my own attractivenes, but also the kind of people it attracted, and who I really wanted.

Now, I know.

And from this time forward, I will do my best to appreciate the people that cross my path.

Appreciate them with a true open mind.

Conclusion

I started this project skeptical but forced myself to have an open mind. In the middle of this project, I not only gained an appreciation of my own self and beauty but started to enjoy it. Now, I think I’ve found a new appreciation for the people I attract and the power of my own attractiveness.

Now, at the beginning of this challenge, I posed a question that remains unanswered – can simple exposure increase one’s chances of finding love?

Truth be told, I can’t say that it can. Throughout the whole experiment, not once did I find romance. I don’t think exposure alone is enough….at least for me. Perhaps it needs to be a combination of things like exposure, right mindset, a prepared heart, etc.

But the project did shed new light on the meaning of attraction, how it works, why it’s important to know one’s power to attract, and who you are attracting.

So, dear friends, if I could leave you with one thing as I close the chapter on this challenge it would be: be aware of your own attractiveness and be aware of who you are looking for.

I don’t just mean your beauty.

I mean everything -your essence, your worth, your character…

Others will recognize what you are worth and be attracted to you, but unless you are aware of it yourself, you can’t fully appreciate the good people that come your way.

…or beware of the bad ones.

You know who I’m talking about. 🤨

Good luck all!

Until next time,

✌️

Note: Essence Atkins is on point with how I am feeling about my life after this project. She explains it far better than I ever could about the importance of attracting the right people to you and what it means to be single while searching for quality over quantity.  Click here to watch the video she did with Hardly Initiated.